Adding to John Griswold’s suggestion “JOB ONE would be learning to decouple your emotional life from their input” — make sure you are independent of them, not just emotionally. Live away from them, have an emotionally supportive set of friends, prepare adequately for the occasions when you do expect to meet them (if they want to engage, do so. Or have some other set of strategies: Perhaps playfully dismissive “oh that? Your read that? That was just for my fiction writing class!”, or turn it around with “That wasn’t about you, that was about me.” and walk away.)

I stop to miau to cats.

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