Hmm, Shani, it seems to me that you assume that only men do it to women. Why? I don’t think it is true at all.

I’ve said “I’ll text you” with no intention of doing so, because we are not socialized in knowing what to say at the end of an onlined date to a person we won’t see again unless we both make the choice to do so. After realizing the rudeness of this, I would still say it, and then text a polite “I’m sorry, this won’t work for me.”

Why don’t we all suggest some decent closers?

I stop to miau to cats.

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