These guys are inexperienced and misogynistic. I’m just surprised it took so long in the relationship for it to show.
By the time you are at the point at which some guy is in a position to say any of this to you, it is a bit too late, right? As you have noticed, “we finished the sex but…never again".
So based on your experience, the really useful article for heterosexual women would be a list of het men’s behaviors that predict the kind of immediate to sex negging you describe. “The things men do that predict that they will say the worst possible things to me in bed.”