With the first two “boyfriend” examples you have, were there no early, measurable, predictive signs that they were sucky examples of humanity? The real utility of this insight of yours would be if you could make it into a non destructive test, some way of finding out how they would be likely to behave in a low point without having to face the low point or waiting for it, at which point it is too late for us if they fail the test.

Oh by the way, I’ve been on all four sides of that coin: failing, passing, being failed and being supported.

I stop to miau to cats.

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